Former Churchill comedian Zeddy Zainabu narrated how she found out that her child was stillborn after she delivered and the honorific experience she underwent.
Speaking during an interview with Grace Msalame, Zeddy narrated,
“I WAS EXPECTANT WITH MY SECOND BORN AND EVERYTHING WAS GOING ON WELL TILL I FELT IT WAS TIME FOR MY DELIVERY. I DECIDED TO GO TO THE NEAREST PRIVATE HOSPITAL SO THEY REFERRED ME TO KIAMBU.
WHEN I REACHED KIAMBU HOSPITAL I WAS GIVEN A LESO TO LIE DOWN AS THE BEDS WERE FULL SO I ASKED MY HUSBAND TO COME PICK ME UP AND WE WENT TO PUMWANI.”
“UPON REACHING THERE I WAS TAKEN DIRECTLY TO THE DELIVERY ROOM. WHEN THE BABY WAS BORN, HAKULIA AND I SAW THEM LOOKING AT EACH OTHER. THE DOCTOR THEN TOOK THE BABY AND PUT HIM IN A BOX AND THEN USING HIS FOOT PUSHED IT TOWARDS THE NURSE.” ‘MTABEBA MWENDE NAYO NYUMBANI?’ THE DOCTOR ASKED THEM
“I ASKED MY NURSE WHAT HAD HAPPENED TO MY BABY AND SHE RESPONDED ‘UNATUULIZA NA WEWE NDIO UMEBEBA HUYU MTOTO MIEZI TISA. WE NDIO UNAEZA TUAMBIA NINI ILIMFANYIKIA.
SHE WAS SO RUDE SO THEY NEVER EXPLAINED WHAT HAPPENED. UPTO DATE I NEVER KNEW WHAT TRANSPIRED. IT WAS PAINFUL COMING OUT OF THE WARD WITH NOTHING. MY HUSBAND TOLD ME IT WAS GOD’S PLAN AND THAT WE SHOULD LET IT GO.”
After being taken back to the ward to recover Zeddy said that other mothers started treating her with suspicion.
“I WAS HURT BECAUSE I WAS PUT IN THE SAME WARD WITH WOMEN WHO HAD THEIR BABIES. I WOULD WATCH MOTHERS NURSING AND BONDING WITH THEIR BABIES.
ONE WOULD BE LOOKED DOWN UPON WITH OTHER MOTHERS THINKING THAT YOU WOULD STEAL THEIR BABIES. IF YOU WERE SITTING BETWEEN TWO MOTHERS WITH BABIES AND ONE WANTED TO GO SHOWER OR TO THE LOO THEY WOULD NOT LEAVE THEIR BABY WITH YOU.”
Her family would come to visit her but that did nothing to calm her sorrow.
“MY FAMILY WOULD VISIT ME BUT WHEN I WENT HOME AND THAT IS WHEN REALITY SET IN. PEOPLE WOULD COME ASKING ME WHAT GENDER THE BABY WAS WITHOUT KNOWING THE BABY HAD DIED.
IF THE BABY HAD BEEN A BOY I WOULD HAVE NAMED HIM AFTER MY DAD. I WOULD ASK GOD WHY ME BECAUSE MY NEIGHBOUR HAD A FOUR MONTH BABY.
I STARTED GETTING STRESSED SO I GAVE OUT THE SHOPPING TO OTHER EXPECTANT MOTHERS BUT THEY REFUSED. THEY SAID THAT TAKING THE SHOPPING MIGHT BRING THEM BAD LUCK AND THEIR BABIES MIGHT DIE.”
“I STAYED IN THE HOUSE FOR MONTHS, MY HUSBAND WOULD GO TO WORK AND HE NEVER BOTHERED MUCH. IT WAS HARD TO KNOW IF HE WAS AFFECTED BECAUSE HE ACTED NORMAL WHEN HE WAS AT HOME.
THERE WAS A DRUNK FRIEND OF MINE WHO WOULD KNOCK AND DEMAND I OPEN THE DOOR.HE WOULD ASK ME ‘ARE YOU GOING TO KILL YOURSELF BECAUSE YOUR CHILD DIED?’
IT’S THEN THAT HE MADE ME GO OUT NORMALLY, HE WOULD EVEN ASK ME TO BRING OUT MY LAUNDRY WE WASH TOGETHER. WE WOULD GO TOGETHER TO THE MARKET, HE MADE ME COME OUT OF MY ‘CAGE’. SADLY HE DIED LAST YEAR.”